I could tell people what they want to hear: that losing weight and shaping up is easy. I could slap my before and after photos on food supplement bottles and sell them as a miracle fat loss cure. I could compile a load of crap about diet and aerobics and flog it as an ebook for $37 a pop. God knows plenty of people are doing just that and making money. But I won’t.
I choose to tell the truth. The truth about the stuff I wish I had known sooner. The stuff I found out the hard way by sorting through all the bullshit – bullshit that can keep you from your goal and separate you from your money.
My message is not what most people want to hear. Most people are buying up worthless books, magazines, and supplements that tell them what they want instead of what they need. This is why 99.5% of people are failing to lose weight and keep it off.
To lose weight successfully, you need the truth. And the truth, as they say, will set you free. But first, it will piss you off.
Do you tell yourself that your loved ones, friends, and co-workers will keep you accountable and help you lose weight?
Do you ask them to stop you from overeating and to tell you to exercise more?
If you do, what you are really doing is using your loved ones, friends, and co-workers as a crutch for your lack of personal responsibility.
Your loved ones, friends, and co-workers cannot keep you accountable even if they wanted to. It’s not their job to save you from yourself - that’s your job. When you try to delegate that responsibility to someone else, you give up the power that comes with it. You give up the power to change.
Ask yourself this: if your loved ones, friends, and co-workers hold you accountable, how come they let you get fat in the first place? Are they accountable for that too? Of course they're not. You are. You got yourself fat, and only you can get yourself thin.
Do you tell yourself you are doing it because you don’t want to let them down? The only person you are letting down is yourself.
“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.”
- Jim Rohn
It’s good to have support from your family and friends but, once you become an adult, they are not accountable for your actions. They can support and encourage you, but they cannot be held accountable for you and they cannot help you hold yourself accountable.
Taking responsibility can be scary. Instead of trying to ease your fear by blaming others, you need to take full responsibility and act.
Have you ever signed one of those contracts you get in some
diet books - the ones where you commit to losing weight and you tell your
spouse, friends, or relatives so they can help keep you accountable?
It doesn’t
work.
It doesn’t work because you are accountable to one person:
you.
It’s the same as buying a gym membership and telling
yourself that you’ll use it because if you don’t you have wasted money.
If you need the threat of embarrassment or loss of money to
force yourself to lose weight and shape up, you are not ready. You have to want
to lose weight and shape up; you cannot force yourself to do it.
If you start to entertain thoughts of signing a contract or forking
out for a gym membership to keep yourself honest, stop. It means that you
really aren’t ready. Better to wait until you are.
If you want to lose fat, you have to get uncomfortable.
Not the kind of message you’ll get from your celebrity fitness DVD or see on the label of your favorite fat burning supplement and for good reason: discomfort doesn’t sell supplements or DVDs. But the hard truth is you’ll get nowhere until you accept discomfort.
“You must become uncomfortable. Feeling good does not create change. Feeling uncomfortable creates change.”
Larry Winget
Diet and fitness books tell you what you want to hear; to look for ways of making exercise easier – to potter about in your garden until you work up a “light sweat”, to roll around on an over-inflated beach ball and to eat every two hours so you don’t get hungry.
Don’t want to sweat or get hungry? Poor baby!
You need to get hungry and you have to get uncomfortable. How else will you find out what true hunger feels like and how else will you send your body a strong enough signal for change when you workout?
If you want to believe that effective exercise involves a leisurely jog along a golden beach while you grin like a Cheshire cat on heat, and if you want to believe that you can buy a slimmer body over the counter of your local health food store, then be my guest. Just don’t expect to lose fat.
Discomfort is where progress starts and fatness ends.
When things start getting uncomfortable, you know you are on the right track.
I had to get really uncomfortable before I decided it was time to do something about my weight. The discomfort was very real, very personal, and very scary. Instead of running away from it, I faced it head on. I discovered it wasn’t so bad after all. For 46 years I tried to bury my discomfort with food. I fed it until it became a 320lb behemoth that I could no longer ignore.
“There are risks and costs to a program of action. But they are far less than the long-range risks and costs of comfortable inaction.”
John F. Kennedy
The good news is that once you accept discomfort, it gets easier. The more willing you are to accept discomfort, the easier losing fat becomes.
Diet books and magazines want you for a repeat customer. It’s in their interests to keep you fat. That’s why they set their word processors to find words like “uncomfortable”, “hard”, and “work” and replace them with words like “enjoy”, “easy”, and “relax” - words that give you a warm glow inside but do f**k-all for losing fat.
Did that make you feel uncomfortable? Good! We’re on the right track.
You got fat by eating too much. Ask anyone – fat people, thin people, and anyone in between - they all know you get fat by eating more food than you need. If you are honest with yourself, so do you.
No one is forcing you to eat food that makes you fat. You choose to eat it. And never mind that your brother, sister, or best friend can eat as much crap as they like and look like a cover model. You can’t. Wishing you could pig out on chocolate and beer and still look like Brad Pitt won’t make it so – not even if you are Brad Pitt.
Let me ask you this: even if you are “big-boned”, have some “glandular problem”, or you believe there’s some celestial being crushing your will to resist every time you see a donut, what are you going to do about it?
You see, even if these things were true, nobody else can help you with them. It’s up to you.
My Very Own “Glandular Problem”
I have diabetes. I inject insulin daily. Insulin makes you hungry. This makes losing fat “more challenging” as my doctor eloquently put it.
If I misjudge the dose and take too much insulin I have to eat more food or I will end up in hospital or worse.
As I lost fat, my body needed less insulin. This meant adjusting my injections. But sometimes I took too much insulin and had to eat more food. It would have been easy to give up in the face of this, but I accepted that I might not lose any fat some weeks and carried on.
I didn’t choose to have diabetes, but I did choose not to let it stop me losing fat. It was my choice.
It’s Up To You
Taking responsibility is the first step towards losing fat. You have to take responsibility for what you are putting into your mouth, and you have to take responsibility for exercising.
Don’t let anyone tell you different.
The world is full of people who will take your money for telling you that it’s not your fault, that all you need is their special diet or supplement or workout. None of it works; the work has to come from you. That work starts by making a decision to change.
Decide now to be thin and follow through with action. If you don’t, that’s your choice.
